Rettungsgassen retten Leben – #TMIishTuesday #71

Rettungsgassen: Jeder weiß, dass es sie gibt. Trotzdem werden sie – gerade in letzter Zeit – nicht gebildet. Warum sie so unglaublich wichtig sind – und wie man sie richtig bildet – in diesem Post. Continue reading “Rettungsgassen retten Leben – #TMIishTuesday #71”

Deportations of refugees – #TMIishTuesday #68

It’s been a very tricky topic to discuss for centuries: People have migrated to different places ever since human existence. And due to globalisation and information spreading more easily (#internet), we have seen a lot of migrants coming to Europe recently. But what about deporting them back to their home countries? Do and Don’t? Let me explain! Continue reading “Deportations of refugees – #TMIishTuesday #68”

“Your rights deprive me of my rights”! – #TMIishTuesday #66

Yes, we’re taking another look at the same-sex marriage discussion in Germany. And we’ll focus on one argument in particular: “If you* get more rights, that will take away my* rights!”
* “you” being the group of people being awarded the rights and “my” meaning the people defending their rights Continue reading ““Your rights deprive me of my rights”! – #TMIishTuesday #66″

#TMIishTuesday #59 – Bi-what? – On Bisexuality

Hey,

After
writing the last #TMIishTuesday I got sick. Maybe that serves to say that I’m
sick of our society. Maybe it was just coincidence. Anyway, I’m recovered for
the most part and ready to write the next one. Let’s talk about bisexuality.

Hey
there mighty people of the internet!

And welcome to issue #59 of #TMIishTuesday – my weekly Tumblr post about what goes
through my weird mind and on what you guys want to know more about. It can be
something very personal, it can be something political, it can be completely
pointless – but in 99.9 % of the cases, it involves opinions. And mine as well.

// Last week I discussed my first ever poem
in English: Society. It’s about how
society treats people and expects people to treat it. The discussion included
several norms and the issues that I, personally, and other people have with
those norms. If you haven’t read it, do so now. I mean… Why not? 🙂 //

Bisexuality
is a concept that most people will be familiar with. Still, many seem to not be
able to relate to it. How can you love both boys and girls? How is that even
possible? Would God want that to happen?

These are some questions that might be raised when someone comes out as
bisexual. Society loves to question
everything that they don’t know. And ASSUME about stuff they know nothing about
(more on that in my previous two #TMIishTuesday’s #selfpromo). People like to
call out stereotypes on other people.

Let’s discuss some stereotypes I found are quite common about bisexual people:
1. “You like both genders, so it has to be SO MUCH EASIER to DATE for
you!”
Well… No? Even though it might seem that bisexual people do have a little
more choice, they also have their preferences. Also: They might identify as
“bisexual”, but only be interested in sex with one gender – but
prefer a romantic relationship with the other gender. Or they have only dated one
gender, but could also imagine dating the other.

2. “You are WHORES! You F*CK EVERYONE you can find!”
Well… No? The statement above is actually kind of the follow-up to what I said
before. But it’s simply not true. Bisexuals don’t change their partners more
frequently than people of any other sexual orientation. Regardless their gender
or those of their partners.

3. “You have it so much EASIER than the rest of the LGBTQ+ community! YOU
DON’T KNOW how it feels!”
Well… No? The statements above might give you a little bit of an impression of
the situation bisexuals find themselves in. Yes, they may “fit in”
better, if they date the opposite gender. In this case, if they wanted to, they could hide
their bisexuality from others. But: That’s only when they date the opposite
gender. Once they date the same gender they might be viewed as lesbian or gay –
which doesn’t give a correct account on their feelings, either. However, given
the common misconception of “you can easily fit in, if you want to”,
bisexuals may not be as excepted in the LGBTQ+ community, as other members are.

4.
“You can just CHOOSE which gender to DATE! You are so LUCKY!”
Well… No? Building on what I just said, it’s widely accepted that homosexuals
can’t choose which gender they want to fall in love with. And guess what? The
same goes for bisexuals. They also need that certain “click” with
people to fall for them. And we all know that doesn’t happen too easily.
Regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

5.
Adding
to the bisexual stereotypes, they also might face some gay or lesbian
stereotypes – given that they (sometimes) date the same gender – including: “God
doesn’t approve of same-sex love! You’ll go to hell, if you sleep with the same
gender!”

Summing up: The stereotypes against bisexuality, the misunderstanding and the
ignorant “I don’t like anyone different from me” (read with a very
derisive voice) kinda of people are still around. Bisexuals still have
to fear rejection by their loved ones. That it might ruin their career (the
case of Aaron Hernandez is not proven, but there are assumptions that suggest
that he killed a friend who was threatening to out the former American football
professional. Apparently Hernandez thought the outing might set an end to his professional
career. There is no doubt that murdering also ruined it, but that’s a different
story).

All we can do is to fight stereotypes. Be proud. Be loud. Even, if you are not
bi, tell people off who assume things about bi people or even make fun of them.
That’s your chance to be a good ally!

If you
are bi yourself, I’d LOVE to know your opinion on the topic! How do you
perceive being bi in today’s society? What needs to change?

If you are not bi, I’d still like to know your thoughts on the topic. What
needs to change? How would you support a bi friend? Place a comment, tweet me, dm me, or do anything else
you can think of to get to me.

Queer Shoutout you say? Talking of bi people: I’ve been subscribed to German
vlogger Lisa Sophie (known on YouTube as ItsColeslaw) for more than three years
now. In September 2016, she made a video about an article of German teen
magazine BRAVO. The article was about bisexuality and suggested that bisexuals
per se have more than one sexual relationship at a time. I brought up that
topic above as well. It’s just not true. Lisa addressed this misconception,
thereby revealing her sexuality. Community power really was strong this time:
Lisa told her community to write an email to BRAVO to change the article. I
participated – and got back an email a few days later: They changed the
article.
But I’m drifting off. This is the story of how Lisa had her coming out which I
really admired. Half a year later, she released her first book: “Wie
ich auf hörte, perfekt sein zu wollen. Ein Leitfaden zum Umgang mit peinlichen Situationen aller Art

(which translates to: “How I stopped wanting to be perfect. A guide to handle
awkward situations of any kind”). The book is about her experiences
growing up in a small town in Bavaria and includes everything from school,
relationships, the drama about certain clothing – and also details about her
first female partner. (I probably missed a lot of good stuff in this list, but
these are some aspects)
I really enjoyed her style of writing. It’s written
very light-heartedly. Inside jokes make it throughout the entire book. And just
like in her videos, she brought her self-sarcasm to the book as well. Plus the
book is autobiographical which makes it extra easy to follow. You can tell she
didn’t try to fake-lengthen the story. Really enjoyed reading the book and
would recommend it to anyone struggling with things like school and (especially
long-distance) relationships – or just to have a laugh.

As
always: Next #TMIishTuesday next Tuesday. If you have any
questions in the meantime, just ask away.
Whatever you’re curious about – I don’t bite. 🙂

Until then: Stay mighty!

Linkage:
– Dennis Klein for queer.de: Der Fall Aaron Hernandez: Wurde der NFL-Star zum Mörder, um seine Bisexualität zu verstecken? : http://www.queer.de/detail.php?article_id=28705
– Lisa Sophie aka. ItsColeslaw on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ItsColeslaw
– Lisa’s video on the BRAVO article: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ms42o4wllg
– Lisa’s book: Wie ich aufhörte perfekt sein zu wollen. Ein Leitfaden zum Umgang mit peinlichen Situationen aller Art: https://smile.amazon.de/dp/3733503805/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1493138858&sr=8-1&keywords=itscoleslaw+wie+ich+aufh%C3%B6rte+perfekt+sein+zu+wollen

Oh, and here’s some self-promo:
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– More #TMIishTuesdays on society topics: http://mightbedamian.tumblr.com/tagged/lgbtqplus
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#TMIishTuesday – #58 – Re: A Poem to Society

Hey,

Thanks
for stopping by. Not much of an intro today. Hope you had a great Easter (if
you celebrated). The following is a more in-depth discussion of the issues
addressed in last week’s #TMIishTuesday aka. A Poem to Society.

Hey
there mighty people of the internet!

And welcome to issue #58 of #TMIishTuesday – my weekly Tumblr post about what goes
through my weird mind and on what you guys want to know more about. It can be
something very personal, it can be something political, it can be completely
pointless – but in 99.9 % of the cases, it involves opinions. And mine as well.

// Last week I wrote my first ever poem in
English: Society. It’s about how
society treats people and expects people to treat it. I’m rather proud of it,
so if you haven’t yet, please click the link above and check it out! //

In the
poem I addressed some of the topics that – according to me – need to be fixed
with today’s society. But I just touched on them, instead of really discussing
them. That’s what this post is for.

Let’s do this in a chronological order. Starting with the first verse.

Norms, standards, rules. It’s kinda what this whole poem is about. Because
these are such important concepts. And
whether you like it or not: They are set up by society and basically everyone
is following them. That is quite powerful. If society were a single person, the
Western world would probably take Kim Jong-un as an example. A dictator leading
what us Westerns see as one big people who are not allowed to think for
themselves. Someone who makes you believe that you – and only you – know what
is good for you. Someone who you can’t touch. Someone who is basically assuming
a godlike position.

But it doesn’t stop there. Society enforces the norms, standards, rules set by
itself. And it also does so in other societies. It expects them to adapt to its
own norms. Disclaimer: There are probably exceptions from the following (which
is awesome!), but from what I experience in my age group and older, it is like
this: Germany has quite some population. More than 80 million. And then there
are Austria and parts of Switzerland, Belgium and Luxembourg that also speak
German. If I may cite Wikipedia for once,
there are roughly 95 million native speakers of German and 10 to 35 million more
studying it abroad. Fair enough. 
But: Us Germans like to play god from time to time. We just go abroad and
expect everyone else to be fluent in German. Doesn’t sound like a clever idea?
You’re German yourself and it sounds very absurd and rude to you? Thank you! We
need more people like you!
But trust me: I’ve experienced it SO many times when I
lived in the Netherlands just around the German border. Germans who take the weekend
(or even more so: German bank holidays like Ascension Day) to go shopping in the Netherlands and ask for
directions. No problem so far. But the problem starts exactly there: They don’t
know any Dutch. And they just approach people in German. And guess what? They
don’t even apologise! They just start talking German. And most of the time they
are lucky. They find a person who speaks enough German to tell them the
directions they need. Actually most of the people are probably quite fluent in
German. The Netherlands being a rather small country, they KNOW they probably
will need more than just Dutch and English, if they want to be set for their
career. That’s why they learn French and/or German from early on at school. And
– in contrast to German schools – Dutch schools know how to teach languages.
Dutch people are fluent in the language they took for 6 years. Why can’t we do
the same in Germany?
Anyway, my initial point was that society thinks that they can push their
expectations onto everyone and everything. Point proven by Germans approaching people in
German when they are abroad.

Fun fact: The German constitution dates back to 1949 (roughly 70 years
ago). And even if it is quite outdated in parts, keep in mind that it
is one of the newer constitutions. Take the British one. Its basic concept is
still in place – after being established in 1688. Or the American one – set up
101 years later. Don’t get me wrong: All of the mentioned constitutions hold
great principles. But there is no doubt that they also hold some that are just
outdated. Like I said in the poem: The spirit has changed. We know
globalisation, we have lots of people travelling far distances. And human
rights have drastically progressed towards a more open and tolerant society.
Thank God they have! But there’s still a lot of work to do regarding the constitutions!

Even though there might not be many “riots” in the Western countries,
there certainly is a feeling of inequality. Over the last few years minorities
have started to notice that they are not treated equally and fought for it.
Most of the time in peaceful protests, sometimes police had to take action. And
these protests have achieved a lot! Yet there is still so much inequality in
place. Equal pay has been a goal for centuries – and we are still not there.
Each and every year we have the “equal pay day” which marks the date
it took women to earn the same money it took men to earn the same in the previous year.
In Germany it was 18 March this year. We need to fix this! Everyone should earn
the same for doing the same job – regardless their gender, ethnicity or
whatever else people discriminate based on.

“Riots” are also there because government doesn’t treat people
equally. Take a look to the U.S. where people of color are afraid of getting
beaten up by police. Simply for being black. Look at Turkey where Turkish and
foreign journalists have to fear imprisonment. Simply for reporting on what
is actually happening in Turkey. But Erdogan wants to hide that from the world.
We can’t tolerate that!

YouTubers and other people posting on the internet are – with a few exceptions
– part of the younger generation. Teens playing video games or filming their
make-up routines, people in their twenties filming their adventures or talking
about topics like society’s misbehaviour. To them equality tends to matter more
than to the older generations. Overall we see a frightening tendency of a “generation
gap” in voting behaviour: The younger generation didn’t want to Brexit.
The younger generation didn’t vote for Trump. The younger generation voted hayır (no) in the Turkish referendum. But the
older generation is still in the majority. They decide on the fate of the
younger ones. To quote a tweet on the Brexit decision by @glenrules (again): “Ever been fucked by a pensioner before? You have
now.”
That is a problem! It happens over and over again. If we can’t get
our shit – also known as our society – together, we have a serious problem! I
can already see the results of the German elections for parliament in
September: The “Catholic Dowdy Union” (CDU) wins the elections (for the third
time in a row) and the “Alternative fucks Da World” (AfD) becomes the
third-strongest party.
Demographics for voters of CDU: older than average
Demographics for voters of AfD: male.

What does that tell us? If you’re male: Use your brain.
If you’re old…
well… don’t vote! 😀
Oh and most importantly: You reading this, Generation Internet: Use your power! If you are allowed to vote on 24 September,
do so! To quote Green Day singer Billie Joe Armstrong: “Don’t let those
bastards dictate your life!”

If you
don’t stand out, you’ll just be a small drop of water in the ocean. But if you
decide to fight for equality, if you speak up when inequality happens, or
simply “break the norms” by dying your hair, you can be that
splattering wave that makes for a beautiful photo. And people will see this
photo and will admire you for standing out. Voice your concerns! Step up and
tell people who are doing wrong! And most importantly: Don’t forget to check yourself,
too!

When the older generations (and the media, thanks guys…) blame video games
for shootings. When they tell us that “the internet is evil” (or
virgin soil, like German chancellor Angela Merkel once did: “Das Internet
ist für uns alle Neuland”). When they tell us that we would be hunted down, if we put too much TMI on the internet, well… have you ever been hunted down cause you posted a
tweet from your toilet? Have you been dragged because you researched on the internet about a
cool band you liked? Have you been the persecutor in a
shooting because you played a game of Call of Duty?
No? Congrats! You are part
of the 99.99 % of the younger population! The older generations still need to
figure that out. Give them time. Eventually they will. Maybe.

Who knows?

Screw society! 

Immigrants.
Can I just copy-paste what I wrote about the younger generation? If you are an
immigrant, you probably were not involved in the rape at New Year’s Eve 2015. And
you probably are more scared to have your home set on fire than setting
something on fire yourself. And you probably are looking for a job, trying to adapt
yourself to the German culture and society, rather than wishing you could go
back to Syria, Turkey or Mali.
Most of the Germans still need to figure that
out. Give them time. Eventually they will. Maybe.

Who knows?

Screw society! 

If you
are part of the LGBTQ+ community, don’t hide, if you don’t feel like hiding. Be
confident of who you are! No matter if your sexuality or your gender is not
conforming the norm. No matter who does or doesn’t accept you. Be proud of who
you are! After all it’s not a choice. Be
proud and be loud!
You are you – just the way you are. And no one can change
that!

There are some bastards in this world. Let’s not let them have a say in who we
are. In how we feel about ourselves. In how we behave. 

If you are treated disrespectfully, be loud about it! Tell those who are disrespectful (they might not even be aware of it). And, if necessary, turn to others for help. Don’t be ashamed for that. It’s not a bad thing to look for help. I had to learn that myself. But it really does help!

You do you. We do us. 

Before I
go, tell me your thoughts on the poem and this post. Should I try to post more
poems? And of course, I wanna know what you think are some things that need to
change with regard to society! Place a comment, tweet me, dm me, or do anything else
you can think of to get to me.

Queer Shoutout you say? German gay forum dbna wrote a post about The Travelin Bum. It might sound weird at first – an ass that travels?
But it’s just that. Pictures of naked male butts who pose around the world. Well the guys, not just the bums. It’s definitely a little weird. But it has its own charm. Check out the page on
Instagram
.

As
always: Next #TMIishTuesday next Tuesday. If you have any
questions in the meantime, just ask away.
Whatever you’re curious about – I don’t bite. 🙂

Until then: Stay mighty!

Linkage:
– Wikipedia: World language: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/World_language#Living_world_languages
– @glenrules on Brexit: https://twitter.com/glenrules/status/746228140792381444
– Bundeszentrale für politische Bildung: Wahlergebnisse und Wählerschaft der CDU: http://www.bpb.de/politik/grundfragen/parteien-in-deutschland/42068/wahlergebnisse-und-waehlerschaft
– Alternative für Deutschland: http://www.bpb.de/politik/grundfragen/parteien-in-deutschland/211108/afd


– dbna: Darum zeigen schwule Jungs gerade ihren Hintern bei Instagram: http://www.dbna.de/leben/meldungen/2017/03/nackte-hintern-schwule-jungs-bei-instagram-41526.php
– The Travelin Bum: https://www.instagram.com/thetravelinbum


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#TMIishTuesday #57 – A Poem to Society

Society

You like
to tell us what to do.
You like to think that we only do
what we are supposed to do.
According
to your norms. Standards. Rules.

You like
to tell them what to do.
You like to think that they don’t do
what they are supposed to do.
According
to your norms. Standards. Rules.

You like
to think that you
are the
most advanced of them all.
You like to tell yourself that you
know how
stuff is done.
According
to your norms. Standards. Rules.

Politicians
set the norms. Standards. Rules.
Democracy
has become a crime!
A constitution written 70 years ago.
Updated, yet not representing
the
spirit of time.
Guess what: The spirit
it
changed.
From 70
years ago
To now. They are not the same:
Norms.
Standards. Rules.

But have you ever wondered:
Who tells you what to do?
Who likes to think that you only do
what you are supposed to do?
According to your norms. Standards.
Rules.

Who likes to tell you what to do?
Who likes to think that they
are the
most advanced of them all?
Who likes to tell themselves that they
know how
stuff is done?
According to their norms. Standards.
Rules.

The riots they are there.
Norms. Standards. Rules.
They
don’t care!
They fight for freedom. Justice. Equality.
They are in the streets. On the web. Everywhere.
They feel they’ve lost their power. Voice. Dignity.
Due to norms. Standards. Rules.

Let me tell you:
You might tell us what to do.
You might think that we only do
what we are supposed to do.
According
to your norms. Standards. Rules.

You might like to tell them what to
do.
You might like to think that they
don’t do
what they are supposed to do.
According
to your norms. Standards. Rules.

You might like to think that you
are the
most advanced of them all.
You might like to tell yourself that you
know how
stuff is done.
According
to your norms. Standards. Rules.

You are
a mere definition of society’s norms.
You have to face all these storms.
You are a mere definition of society’s standards.
You are
more than that!
You are
a mere definition of society’s rules.
You like rock, pop, the blues.

Rules. Standards. Norms.
We are teachers, nurses, nuns.
We would
die for bad puns.
We have blonde hair, brown,
black or
grey – do you frown?
How long
or short has it been?
It does
matter: We are so keen
to stick
to rules. Standards. Norms.

Rules.
Standards. Norms.
We dream
about being YouTubers,
shivering
from comments of hate users.
We play video games that “glorify
violence
”.
Thanks, society, we still don’t need
an ambulance.
We put “everything” on the
internet.
People hunting us down hasn’t happened, yet.

We are Syrian, Nigerian, Chinese, Dutch.
It doesn’t matter all that much.
We are homo,
pan, a or bi,
this is
what we go by.
We are
trans, non-binary, flux or grey,
but hey!
It’s
society who sets the rules. Standards. Norms.

Darling,
schatje, Liebling, bae,
this is gonna sound bizarre
tell
your hamster, dog or cat:
We don’t have to obey!
we are who we are
and no one can change that!

If you liked this poem, feel free to do one or more of the following:
– like the post
– share it around (on any social media you can think of – including RL)
– follow my blog
– check out my Letter to Society from October
– have a read of my other #TMIishTuesday’s

This post is inspired – among others – by:
– Dave Brown: Don’t Stay In School
– Ash Hardell: Stop Coming Out

TMI-ishTuesday 33: A Letter To Society

Dear
society,

Over the last year or so, I have questioned a lot. Most of all I have
questioned myself, thereby discovering a very new part of me which now forms
large part of my identity – and also of this blog. And that makes me very
proud. But I also realised how much I dislike this society. You might be
wondering: Damian, how can you make such generalisations?“ – and you are
100 % right in doing so! Not everyone thinks the same way – and luckily I am
surrounded by lots of accepting people. And
especially social media – Twitter and most of all Tumblr – has become an outlet
for me where I haven’t had any bad experiences. This letter is to the non-accepting,
ignorant rest. So… Let’s address the stuff that gets me mad about society.

This will be a two-part story:
1. Prejudice
2.
Equality and acceptance

1. Prejudice
Dear
society,

There are a lot of prejudices around. And that is normal. I get that. Everyone
has prejudices against SOMEone. People might not show it directly, but they are
immanent to everyone. We might not even be aware of it. Imagine two people:
– a male,
quite the steel-kind of body type and
– a
woman, quite the chubby kind.
If I made you guess who has a meal at a famous fast food restaurant chain with
the golden M and who works out in the gym, your mind would probably be 100 %
clear where to put which of the two. Prejudice.

And this
works exactly the same way when only one person is involved. You, dear society, set standards.
You tell us that a certain trait is "manly” or “feminine”.
Or that if your body is scattered with tattoos, you like “hard
rock” music. Or that dyeing your hair bright red makes you "punk”.
And while males are more likely to play football and females are more likely to
do their fingernails, that does not mean the other way around does not exist.
And even more important, even IF you perceive playing football as a very
“manly” thing, that does NOT make women and girls playing football
any less “female”. And males wearing nail polish don’t turn female
just because of that. Prejudice.

– P. S.: No one ever just “changes their gender”. But that might be a
topic for another #TMIishTuesday. –

Another
thing I read a lot – way more often than football being a “male” thing or
nail polish being “female”: If you dye your hair a different colour
than blonde as a male, that makes you “gay”. Again: Yes, the
percentage of males dyeing their hair might be higher among gays, but that does
NOT mean that you are “gay”, if you dye your hair! And you are the
last person to tell me my sexuality. Prejudice.

What about clothing then? Well… Same: It is completely fine to
dress however you want! Skinny jeans don’t mean you are “gay”. And baggy
clothes don’t improve your rapping skills – even if some might wish that was
true. Wearing boxer shorts as a girl? No change to your gender. Just like a boy
wearing a skirt doesn’t turn him into a girl. Prejudice.

It is completely fine to dye your hair crazy colours. It is completely fine to
cover your entire body in tattoos and piercings. It is completely fine to wear
high heels as a boy. Does that make you “gay”, “feminine”
or “liking rock music”? Nope. Prejudice.

2. Acceptance
and equality
Dear
society,

If you
are an active follower of my Tumblr or Twitter, there’s a “small” chance that you
already know that I HATE, HATE, HATE all the inequality that you, dear society,
bring to us. You judge everyone for what they might be. Anything that you don’t
know scares you. And I don’t mean that you will be insecure for a second and
then move on. Anything that you don’t know scares the s*** out of you! And you
get SO insecure that you feel you have to hate whatever this anything might be.
That’s scary! And: Not fair.

Let’s
start with the thing that is probably most common and has been this way for
centuries: Women. Yepp, females are still not treated the same as males. Don’t
believe me? Just look at wage rates. There are still large differences. For no
obvious reasons. Yes, they CAN get pregnant and will take time off for a few
months then. But: 
1) It is CRUCIAL that they DO get pregnant. Otherwise we won’t reproduce. So is
it bad that they are getting pregnant? Nope. Then why are lower wage rates
their reward??
2) Some DON’T WANT to get pregnant. They just don’t want to have kids. Does
that make them evil? Nope. Then why are they still getting less pay just
because of their gender??
3) Some
DO want kids. But they are unfortunate and CAN’T. Are they happy that
way? Nope. Then why are they paid less simply for being female??
Not fair.

Talking
about lower wage: Another demographic group that earns substantially less than
others are foreigners and people of a different ethnicity. Why? Because they
are different. Why? Because they were born this way. Can they do anything about
it? Nope. Still, society feels they don’t know them. Why? Because they are
different. Oh, this is where we started, isn’t it? Erm… Let’s move on to the
other reasons why they earn less then. Here’s a full, extensive list of valid
reasons why foreigners and people of a different ethnicity or those, who have a
foreign name (like myself), should be treated differently from others:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
9.
10.

What do
you mean there’s nothing on this list? Of course there isn’t! You asked for a list of valid reasons to
treat someone differently. And that’s exactly what you got! And I get that you
are sad. Now you don’t have any valid reasons anymore to degrade people. I’M SO
SORRY! But maybe this made you realise something? People being treated differently for no valid
reason is not valid. Not fair.

Same-sex marriage. I talked about the situation in Germany and the Netherlands
briefly in last week’s post for #TMIishTuesday. And I might write an entire
post about this, if you guys are interested in that. For now: I’m gay. And I am
not allowed to marry in this country. I mean, they tell you it’s
“marriage”, but it’s called differently. Why? Because – quite frankly
– there are some ignorant, religious a**holes dictating our lives! Calling
politicians this way might sound very rude and I’m trying not to be the next
Trump(et) – God bless! I hate this piece of s*** even more than most of the rude
people in our society! But what politicians – even in Germany – do is just
ridiculous. The whole Christian party people of CDU
and – even more so – CSU are ABSOLUTELY opposing same-sex marriage. Yes, there
is a minority in these parties who are in favor of same-sex marriage, but the vast majority is opposing same
rights. And there are LGBTQ+ people in those parties as well. Even in the
ultra-right AfD party. I mean… Do you cut the electricity cable leading up to
your house and then complain about having to sit in the dark for two days because
those stupid electricians can’t fix the cable early? Exactly! Then why would
you vote any of these parties, if you are part of the LGBTQ+ community? Let
alone become a member! Aaanyway, what I’m trying to say is: Same-sex marriage
is accepted by most of society. Just not by those elected in office. Sooo… we
are stuck with horrible “equal rights” laws. Saddening, maddening,
devastating! Not fair.

Last thing on my agenda: Binary concepts. This is very simple: You, dear society, make us think that there are only two genders. And only two sexes. But you are very, very wrong with this. There’s more than “male” and “female”. There’s more than “heterosexual” and “homosexual”. Genders include genderfluid, agender, and queer people, just to name three more. Obviously there are lots more. Sexuality knows even more. Bisexual, asexual, pansexual, demisexual, etc. Including only two genders or two sexes? Not fair.

See what treating people differently is? Not fair.
And see what judging people by appearance is? Prejudice.

Dear
society,

Stop
judging a person by minor, appearance-related aspects! Stop telling people who
they are! They know very well themselves.

Stop
cutting the electricity cables providing your house with power! Make equal
rights a thing – finally! Let’s start by electing accepting people into office! 

And never forget:
Do more of what makes you happy! Wear make-up and nail polish, pierce your ear,
get a tattoo! And most of all:

BE YOU!

Don’t
give a f*** about what society thinks about you! You are you – and no one can
ever change that!!

Yours,

Damian

P. S.: Technically this is a #TMIishTuesday. No. 32 to be precise. So for the
sake of consistency and completeness, here’s the poll on the topic (first
comment after the ending of the poll determined the topic – thanks again Felix)
and here’s what I told you about the topics beforehand.

Thanks for taking the time to read all of this! If you enjoyed this letter to
society, like it, reblog it, tweet it, print it, and send it to those in power
– oh and to those, who could change things when combining forces (Hint: This is us. We are the
people! Show them!). Seriously: It’s a very important topic and you can always do
SOMEthing! Even spreading awareness helps.

Also: Follow my blog and my Twitter.
Okay, this one post might not change anything, but please still do all of the
rest. 😀

Next post next Tuesday at 10.00 pm CET. In case of any questions before Tuesday,
just ask away (or hit me up on Twitter). Whatever you’re curious about
– I don’t bite. 🙂

Until then: Stay mighty!

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