TMI-ish Tuesday 17: Bad coming out videos

Hey there mighty people of Tumblr! Not really a fact
about myself today, but rather something that’s been bothering for a while now:
“Coming out videos”. Ever since I discovered my own sexuality, I’ve pretty much
watched every one that hit the YouTube search “coming out”. And most of it are
people telling their coming out story or just state “I’m
gay/lesbian/bi/trans/asexual/etc.” and elaborate on it further in the video.
Those are all amazing! Going out there and just putting a video with your story
on the internet shows you have guts! And I honestly admire those, who have
already done it! Props to all of you!

No, what really gets on my nerves, is what I like to call “fake
coming out videos”. If you don’t know what I mean, let me show you. To me, there are basically three categories to this:

1. Two-second videos:
Where the “creator” (in inverted commas cause I think creators actually put
time in their videos – thinking about what to say and how to film and edit it –
[/rant]) just says “hey, my name’s Günther* and I’m
gay/lesbian/bi/trans/asexual/etc.”, and that’s it. And let me not begin with
people who will just upload such a video and not even talk, but have a black
screen with white letters saying it. Like, I don’t get why you are uploading
this video. If you needed to come out to friends/family/people you know, then
TELL them! That works way better. Or if you don’t feel safe talking about it,
text them. What I’m trying to say is: Why send them a like to THIS video? Just
text them “hey my name’s Günther* and i’m
gay/lesbian/bi/trans/asexual/etc.” instead. Or don’t you want them to know? I
think you are not making this video for us, who don’t know you personally. If
you think you are a creator (see above), then take some effort and tell a
story. Your story.

* Disclaimer: “Günther” just sprang to my mind cause I had a rather dumb
teacher named Günther. If your named Günther, please don’t feel offended 😀

2. Fake “coming out” videos:
Where the creator thinks it’s funny to make fun of the LGBTQ+ community. Before
I really get into it: No, what you do is not funny, but simply rude and
hurting. Why? Cause you have no f*cking idea how it feels being
gay/lesbian/bi/trans/asexual/etc. and you just go ahead and make fun of it.
You may be wondering what I mean by “fake coming out videos”. Well,
people “coming out” (in inverted commas cause it is no coming out) as
straight, human, playing Minecraft (yes, I’ve really seen someone do that.
Props for the idea, I still dislike you, though) or whatever else that is not
part of the LGBTQ+ spectrum. Why it annoys me? They are f*cking click-baiting
attention whores! It is no secret that coming out videos can get quite popular.
Some of the bigger YouTubers definitely grabbed some subs from the fact that
they are part of the LGBTQ+ community and/or their coming out videos. Look at
Tyler, Troye, Connor, Hannah, Ingrid, Joey, …and probably some more that I
left out. Ellen should also be mentioned apart from YouTube.
Anyway, I’m drifting off-topic. Attention whores. That’s where I was. And I was
already done. Almost. If you are a straight cis guy (I’ve never seen a girl do
it), then don’t make a coming out video! Full stop.

3. Prank “coming out” videos:
Where the creator thinks it’s funny to make fun of the LGBTQ+ community. Before
I really get into it: No, what you do… Oh, I said that already, didn’t I?
Well, true for this category as well. Just saying!
But: In addtion to what I said for 2., these guys (again: I’ve not seen a girl
to it. Strange, isn’t it?) are trying even more to harrass queers by making
others think they are queer themselves, just to tell them they’re not at the
end of the video. Why they do it? Coming out sells (see above) and pranks do
even better! (More views) + (more views²) = (more views)³. At least! “coming
out pranks” just go rocket high view-wise. And that is a pity!
Same as with 2., but even more so: I don’t like pranks, I don’t like attention
whore, and I absolutely can’t stand attention whores doing pranks! Which –
sadly – seems to be corelated. Anyway: No matter, if you are a straight cis guy
or any other gender, f*cking don’t make a prank “coming out” video! It’s
just disrespectful to everyone, who actually is part of the LGBTQ+ community!
Full stop.

Okay, enough of the rant. I think, I
made my point. Let’s spread positivity! How about we start with some excellent
examples of (actual) coming out videos?
Here are some of my favorite ones. Okay, tbh, this turned into a veeery long
list. I’m going to post a description to each one in another post, along with
some videos in German and Dutch. But here are the links to the ones in English
already:

The
ones I found prior to coming out cause I was subbed to them already:
– Troye Sivan, gay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JoL-MnXvK80
– Connor Franta, gay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WYodBfRxKWI
– Connor Franta, gay, part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgvXcEyRevs

Hannah Hart, lesbian: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OZ_8O929WOA

The
ones I discovered during or after coming out:

Seanssurreallife, gay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MciOb3lppjk

Colton Witt, gay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GzLYuNHtmQ

Amanda, lesbian: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fdAGuzb_A-o

Brenden Hopkins, bi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ps9DXk4uap4

Megan Hillenbrand, trans MTF (Male-To-Female): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4KtIG4o1wco
– ChandlerNWilson, trans agender (FTM):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9a_QWqME_TY

I tried to put people from all LGBTQ+ spectrums, but obviously that is hard to achieve.
As a final video, I would like to share: TheReelCorner – Being Gay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MPCG-LhlgSg

Short, creative filmmaking and – most importantly – telling people what being
gay is normal. Yes, bro!

So. Very long post. Take away? Don’t make fun of minorities. Don’t joke about it. Also: Watch the genuine coming out videos! They are awesome!

If you know other great coming out videos (for those spectrums or others), tell me! My ask box is always open. My Twitter as well. 

And as always: Next fact next Tuesday. Or earlier, if you would like to know anything specific. Just ask away. Whatever you’re curious about – I don’t bite. 🙂

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TMI-ish Tuesday 16: Wrap-up

Hey there mighty people of Tumblr! It’s been a while since i’ve got around to talk to you. So, instead of a stating a fact about me, i’ll just do a little wrap-up update post on what happened during the last three weeks (has it actually been that long? sorry!)
/edit from after finishing this post: it is NOT a “little” wrap-up post. Rather, it turned out quite elaborate on topics that matter to me. If you don’t want to read it all, here’s the content:
1. Moving houses
2. Lone time
3. Coming out
4. Orlando 1
5. Orlando 2
6. Brexit
/end of edit

1. Moving houses: I got a room! After looking for one for one-and-a-half months and simply being ignored by the ALL people i wrote to, i finally got a neat little appartment in the city i wanted to move to. Very close to the center – like it! That also means i only have to stay at my parents’ for a few more weeks. Good times ahead!

2. Lone time: Since my parents are currently on holidays – with the neighbors – i have the entire house for myself! So, so, SO cool! Not having to care about noise too much, getting up late without feeling my parents might just shout at me for that next minute – great! Really looking forward to live on my own again. And for real this time: No roommates, just me. 

3. Coming out: No news, yet. Sorry, if i just made you excited for no reason. 😀 But i was close to telling another person (except for the six i already told. More on that here). On Sunday it was the match of the German national football team at the Euros against Slovakia. There’s that group of friends (like 6 or so?) and we watched the first few matches together. And i figured: “Hey, my parents are away, i have the living room all for myself, let’s invite them to watch at my place!”. Turned out, only one of them actually had time to watch the match (or the rest didn’t WANT to – also possible). Anyway, he was the only one to come over. And beforehand i thought about maybe coming out to him, if the circumstances were right and if i felt like it. But… He left quite quickly after the match. So still no one else knows.

4. Orlando 1: Obviously I have to drop some words on what happened in Orlando two weeks ago. That saturday, I woke up to the news spreading on Twitter of Christina Grimmie being shot at a meet & greet after a show in Orlando. To that date i had never heard about Christina, but it made realise that the States are still the goddamned country where everyone can get a gun. R.I.P. Christina.

5. Orlando 2: That same saturday proceeded for me with going to work and to sleep afterwards. The next morning i woke up to shocking news on Twitter AGAIN. This time it really hit me! It was the first time that i heard homophobic news since i came to terms with myself. And it was quite a shock tbqh! Knowing that there were so many people murdered, with the shooter specifically targetting LGBTQ+ people like me, just made me feel horrible. I’ve been shocked a lot of times before – when i heard the coming out stories of American people on YouTube with very conservative, homophobic parents. That seems to be much more of an issue in America than it is in Europe. Shoutout to you Americans though for legalising same-sex marriage! Germany, take note! – but this one… pheeew! Still haven’t fully grasped what happened there. Horrible!

6. Brexit: Last week something happened that apparently no one expected cause they wanted to believe it was never gonna happen. British people voted to leave the European Union! I was devasted when i read about the results! Absolutely knocked out! Like: HOW!? HOW are there SO MANY IDIOTS in this country? I really liked British people. And i probably will continue to do so, but the results REALLY pose a HUGE challenge to us Europeans. And even more so to Britain. And what really struck me is, how old people can screw up the future of millions of young and semi-young people! I find the graphic that glenrules posted on Twitter very accurate. It literally says it all! 
Let’s see where this journey takes us – Europe and most of all: Britain. To speak with Lostprophets: It’s not the end of the world, but i can see it from here.

Right, this post turned out a lot more elaborate than i had imagined, but i don’t want to leave anything out, so take this 6-bullet post as a little bit of a compensation for not posting TMI-ish Tuesdays for three weeks. 

Life is hard – take it easy!

Let me know your thoughts on anything mentioned.

And as always: Next fact next Tuesday (pinky promise!). Or earlier, if you would like to know anything specific. Just ask away. Whatever you’re curious about – I don’t bite. 🙂

P.S.: Do you follow my Twitter, yet? 🙂

Have you heard about Orlando

pupnobley:

Yes I did and I don’t know what to say really. I can’t believe that one guy’s twisted mind was able to shock the whole world with his agressive acts of violence and hatred… ONE person… over 100 victims, it’s bedazzling.

I was taught that one person could make a difference, but in this case I really hope and believe that the unity of us as a tolerant and loving community stands so strong that we can absorb the impact of this loss, so that this idiot’s deeds makes no difference at all and perhaps even make us stronger in the end.

My well wishes and condolences for everyone who (in)directly got involved in this attack.

i couldn’t have expressed it any better! exactly how i feel about it. shocking! just shocking how much one person can change! we need to stay strong.

TMI-ish Tuesday 15

Hey there mighty people of Tumblr! You might argue that it’s not Tuesday today. And… well… technically you’re right… But… Doesn’t Wednesday feel just like Tuesday anyway? 😀

Today’s (or yesterday’s? This is confusing! Nearly as confusing as discovering your own sexual orientation. Okay, i’m drifting off – sorry…) – today’s fact is something youtub-y again. Simple, plain, just putting it out there: I’ve probably watched every coming out video that was uploaded to YouTube over the last couple of months. Why? Cause i like hearing the coming stories of others. The difficulties they faced – or how it all went down very smoothly. I can’t say which ones i prefer. Both are interesting. But obviously i wish everyone accepted us for who we are. People. (This got really deep really quickly)

Anyway, what i was going to tell you is: Even, if i haven’t subscribed to most of the people whose coming out videos i watched, i still found it very interesting. How they approached the topic, how the people around them reacted and all. And i take away some tips for myself from virtually each and every one of those videos.

Coming out videos are cool!

As always: Next fact next Tuesday. Or earlier, if you would like to know anything specific. Just ask away. Whatever you’re curious about – I don’t bite. 🙂

P.S.: Do you follow my Twitter, yet? 🙂

TMI-ish Tuesday 14: Languages

Hey there mighty people of Tumblr! It’s Tuesday which means another fact about me. Yey? Yey!

I speak about four languages. “Why about?” you may ask. Well… Would you consider Latin a language? I mean, yes, it is one and i learned how to read (and most of all: translate) it. But i’ve never written anything in Latin (apart from single sentences as part of a saying). So… Does Latin count for my “speaking languages” counter? I don’t know… 

What i do know: I am fluent in three more languages. German as my native language, English, as that was the first foreign language i learned at school, and Dutch, my latest addition. Went to study there and although my studies were in English, i thought i might as well learn the language, if i live there. So that happened. And after doing a language programme, i lived with Dutch room mates for 4.5 years. Now i can say that i truely mastered the language. And i’m very proud of that.

Languages are such a cool thing!

Also: Now that you know that i know those languages, feel free to contact me in any of those languages.

As always: 

Next fact next Tuesday. Or earlier, if you would like to know anything specific. Just ask away. Whatever you’re curious about – I don’t bite. 🙂

P.S.: Do you follow my Twitter, yet? 🙂

TMI-ish Tuesday 13

Hey there! Tuesday, another fact about me for you on Tuesday. As i told you in my Coming Out Story, Part 1-4, YouTubers – vloggers like Connor Franta, Troye Sivan, Tyler Oakley, and Hannah Hart, but also German animator Manniac – have helped me discover that i am gay and how to deal with all that “new” life. I won’t go into detail too much here. You can find a lot of it in the mentioned post and i might talk about that again later.

Anyway, today’s fact is: I just subscribed to my first transgender YouTuber yesterday. I’m very happy that i found them cause – again – it offers a whole different perspective on life and what LGBTQ+ people are experiencing. Including – and i believe that is a very, very important topic for trans people – that they use they/them pronouns. To be honest, it first sounded strange to me when i watched a video of them for the first time. But you get the hang quite quickly. Them sharing their story also gave me lots of comfort. Even, if being gay and being transgender probably are completely different, we have one thing in common: We do not fit societal standards and expectations for 100%. Simply because we are not straight and don’t feel comfortable with our assigned genders. (And yes, i’m aware that transgender and gay people are not the only sexualities/sexual orientations besides “straight and comfortable with assigned gender”). Anyway, from their coming out story and their transgender-themed channel, i learned a lot that i might use for myself when coming out to new people and who knows in what other situations. Very useful!

If you’re interested in who i was talking about, shoot me an

ask or message me. Other than that: Next fact next Tuesday. Or earlier, if you would like to know anything specific. Just ask away. Whatever you’re curious about – I don’t bite. 🙂

TMI-ish Tuesday 12

What do you mean, it’s Wednesday? Did it happen again? I missed it? Oh. Erm… I can explain. Erm… Surely. Give me a second. Okay… I can’t. Soz.

Fact for today (or yesterday, if you want, lol): I listened to the Pokemon theme song the other day and it made me want to play the generation I games again. Preferably on the gameboy colour. 😛 Anyone else who used to play Pokemon?

And as always: Next fact next Tuesday. Or earlier, if you would like to know anything specific. Just ask away. Whatever you’re curious about – I don’t bite. 🙂